i motionless to forgive. a the twenty-five yr marriage, right away he’ll be drifting home to a opposite state for one more precision for afganistan for 6 weeks, i devise to get a motel nearby there to see him though he says no, i do not certitude him in san antonio clubs upon his giveaway time. im in virginia, he is not troops though a contractor.
approbation i forgave a past, i only dont wish to be harm again. he will be here for 10 days in virgina first, contemptible if it’s complicated, he lies so much.
i found out final Easter night when he left his emails open upon my p.c. as well as i saw her email to him.
you can suprise him in san antonio and see what he’s up to..bc that sounds iffy to me. actually email me and ill let you know of the clubs in san antonio and the names that would show up on a cc statement..i am from there and i know of alot of the clubs.
Sounds like your marriage will never work. You have no trust there which I don’t blame you. You really need to ask yourself have you truly forgave him for what he has done to you,to me it seems that you haven’t.You can always forgive but you will never forget what he has done. Good Luck
Hi Marilyn sorry you are in this mess .
I think when he gets to Texas you should pay him a surprise visit .
Hope it proves to be nothing and puts to rest some of your fears.
if theres no trust how can you expect to have a relationship with your husband, hes done it once and he’ll do it again! on the other hand i can understand its hard for you to walk away as it is a 25 year marriage, im not saying walk from the whole issue but set him straight and tell him how your feeling and that your not prepared to be walked over!
best of luck
leah xx
He’s cheating for sure and it will not stop !!
How did you find out? Did the swine tell you? If so, he’s a weak wimp who just wants to dump all his guilt onto you so he can feel all clean and righteous. He doesn’t sound to me worth keeping but I suppose after 25 years you might want to shore up a not very good marriage. If so, then yes, I would certainly go and check out the clubs in San Antonio to find out if he’s cheating yet again…….but what are you going to do if he is? Are you going just so you can hit him with his faithlessness again or are you just going to find out so you can beat yourself up some more? That’s demoralising and I think you have had quite enough of that in your life caused, no doubt, by this skunk you are married to. Think of all eventualities and scanarios and make yourself a longterm plan of how you are going to handle each one. Always best to be prepared. I think though, as you forgave him once and he’s done it again and you now don’t trust him not to cheat on you yet again, it might be a good idea to do something completely different. Instead of being Mrs.Nice and Forgiving, how about turning into Mrs. Hell on Wheels who packs his stuff and locks him out of the house and starts divorce proceedings? At the very least it will give him pause for thought and you a bit of self respect. Where is he going to live after he’s finished philandering if he can’t come home to his well-known doormat? He might look at you very differently if he sees his comfortable life disappearing before his eyes. I wouldn’t give him any warning either. Shock tactics. Good luck
If he "lies so much" and has already cheated, why are you with him? You are settling dear and thinking that if you watch him close enough you won’t get hurt. The fact is YOU ARE ALREADY hurt, because he is cheating in his mind and heart even if the opportunity isn’t right there in front of him. Get him into counseling or get out.